Do most of your friends and family know of your spanking fetish or is it something you try to hide? Whether everyone knows or you keep it a secret do yo have any regrets about it?

I come from a big family 9 brothers and sisters, and I am not sure how many know, I know that several do, some may know but choose to ignore it, one I am closest to we talk about it all the time. Of course we have a few spanking friends that know, and we do not really try that hard to hide it...actually kinda like searching for checking for others into spanking....work of course is entirely different....no one there knows

Only my wife knows of my spanko inclinations. Nobody else in my private life or in the workplace knows, although some might suspect.

I have always longed to be able to talk freely and openly with other spankos about this thing that takes possession of my mind from time to time (to time, to time!), and that is partly why I now use my real name as my ID. I have longed even more to be able to share these things with people who are vanilla friends and/or whose company I value and enjoy.

I do wish it was more socially acceptable to share one's interests more openly, but we live in a world which, despite rampant sexual liberalism, remains somewhat blinkered in this particular area.

It also annoys me that prejudiced and unjustifiably biased, narrow-minded people seem to feel entitled to arrogate to themselves the right to look disdainfully down their self-righteous noses at those of us who dare to be a bit different. Some even have the slanderous audacity to make very dangerous, incorrect and misleading connections between us and people who engage in obnoxious pastimes that are total anathema to all the spankos whom I know.

In reality, I have seen every bit as much genuine love, care and affection amongst spankos as I ever did in the vanilla world. Maybe even more so, pro rata.

I steadfastly refuse to be ashamed of the fact that few things in life bring as much social, emotional and (non-overtly) sexual comfort and satisfaction as being invited by a lady to share in these delights. Few things, in my mind, make a girl more attractive than her desire and willingness, even if only in theory, to give herself in this way to a gentleman who has won her trust and confidence.

Very best wishes to all

Nick

my family and some friends know and I have no regrets about that. i dont advertise it or try to hide it. it doesnt matter who knows to me.

Nick said:
I have always longed to be able to talk freely and openly with other spankos about this thing that takes possession of my mind from time to time . . . . I have longed even more to be able to share these things with people who are vanilla friends and/or whose company I value and enjoy. I do wish it was more socially acceptable to share one's interests more openly . . .

I agree completely, although I would imagine that if it were "more socially acceptable" then the delicious thrill of what I call the outrageous intimacy of a bare-bottom spanking between consenting adults would be lost, or at least diminished.

On the other hand (paradoxically), I share Nick's wish to be able to share one's interests more openly, for example I would love to be able to show off my cane marks to somebody in addition to my wife, after she has disciplined me in her favourite way. One of her close female friends has witnessed, and taken part in, a few of my canings and I found that very exciting.

Other than my wife and her friend, nobody knows of my spanking fetish.

This post was edited by Spankmanbare Williamson at April 16, 2014 3:24 AM PDT

I am out to one sister and also a number of vanilla friends. It's kind of like religion and politics to me - I only discuss it with people I think might be open to the conversation. And, as with any other part of one's sex life, it's really nobody's business.

This post was edited by Spanknutt at April 20, 2014 6:44 AM PDT

I agree Spanknutt, sometimes you just know who you can discuss it with and who you cannot.

Nick said:
Only my wife knows of my spanko inclinations. Nobody else in my private life or in the workplace knows, although some might suspect. I have always longed to be able to talk freely and openly with other spankos about this thing that takes possession of my mind from time to time (to time, to time!), and that is partly why I now use my real name as my ID. I have longed even more to be able to share these things with people who are vanilla friends and/or whose company I value and enjoy. I do wish it was more socially acceptable to share one's interests more openly, but we live in a world which, despite rampant sexual liberalism, remains somewhat blinkered in this particular area. It also annoys me that prejudiced and unjustifiably biased, narrow-minded people seem to feel entitled to arrogate to themselves the right to look disdainfully down their self-righteous noses at those of us who dare to be a bit different. Some even have the slanderous audacity to make very dangerous, incorrect and misleading connections between us and people who engage in obnoxious pastimes that are total anathema to all the spankos whom I know. In reality, I have seen every bit as much genuine love, care and affection amongst spankos as I ever did in the vanilla world. Maybe even more so, pro rata. I steadfastly refuse to be ashamed of the fact that few things in life bring as much social, emotional and (non-overtly) sexual comfort and satisfaction as being invited by a lady to share in these delights. Few things, in my mind, make a girl more attractive than her desire and willingness, even if only in theory, to give herself in this way to a gentleman who has won her trust and confidence. Very best wishes to all Nick

totally agree with you Nick

WOW you said a mouthfull for all of us.With all the strange stuff out there such as scat, golden showers SEVERE bondage child molestation kitty porn etc WHY does society scorn us spankos? I have discovered spanking is possibly the second most popular sexual kink.
Once upon a time AOL chat rooms even had a room called STRICT PARENTS The closed that but allow other rooms dealing with things I described above.The room came back as STERN PARENTS and for some reason it is not listed one must know hwere it is to use it. HOWEVER it seems the only "people" there seem to be bots luring us to "normal" porn sites. What a world??